How to Witness to a Loved One is the title of the ninth episode from season two of Way of the Master. The episode first takes place by a fireside and we get the impression that Ray and Kirk are at home.
Ray says he has preached to some of the hardest people, gang members, cult members, atheists, people of false religions, but what they are studying now is harder than any of that. Ray would rather preach to a room with 10,000 angry atheists than preach to his mother.
Ray then tells us how he grew up in a “Non-Christian” family and how tears were literally streaming down his face when he thought about how we are all going to die. Six months later he had convinced himself that he was saved but wanted to save his family as well.
Witnessing to adults
Ray and Kirk explain how they tried to “save” their family members and different problems crop up that do not happen when preaching to strangers. Family members may say or do things just to please the preacher without real commitment, evangelists care far more about family members than about strangers, confronting and humiliating family members with Are you a good person? can be problematic as the evangelist is calling a family member a lying thief. Ray and Kirk tell stories about difficulties they personally had when they witnessed to specific family members. Ray and Kirk suggest a different tactic, telling the relative the evangelist is a lying adulterous thief, then asking, “But what about you?” They also suggest leading a “blameless life” to prevent the family accusing one of hypocrisy, this could lead to yet more guilt tripping since no human being can live blamelessly.
Next Kirk talks to someone he calls Gran with a 'shawl', grey hair in a female style and a lady’s fan though we see only the back. It turns out Kirk is talking to Ray Comfort dressed partly in drag with a wig in a ladies hairstyle, the shawl may be something neutral like a table cloth or lace curtain but the intention clearly is female impersonation. Kirk pinches Ray’s cheek and asks, “Isn’t she cute?”
Next they talk to and frighten a lady called Rena, we do not see enough of the interviewer to see which it is. Rena agrees that she has lied, has blasphemed, (as Ray Comfort defines both) and has looked at men with lust. She hopes God will forgive her because she believes in Christianity. When asked whether she would end up in heaven or hell if she were to die now she hopes somewhere in between.
The interviewer frightens her again by insisting there is no in between and adds she will not be saved unless she trusts God completely.
Ray and Kirk suggest making an agreement with a Christian friend that each will witness to members of the other’s the family, that way social tensions within one’s own family are avoided, they give examples when Ray witnessed to members of Kirk's family and Kirk witnessed to members of Ray's family. They also say, “Be rich in good works” as before your family will notice whether you practise what you preach. They also say don’t pressure your loved ones, “Trust in the Lord and he will reward you.”
Witnessing to one’s children
Ray and Kirk say bringing one’s own children to be Christian should be easier than saving adults.
As with adults they suggest setting as Christian example, they further suggest having family devotions regularly each day. Fathers and single mothers should see to it that time is set aside each day for bible study and religious study ending with a prayer. Twenty minutes is suggested as the attention span of children is short.
Children should be taught the Ten Commandments, Comfort gives the same list as Iron Chariots though different Christians have different versions of the Commandments.
Viewers who have witnessed and failed are told that they may need to apologise if they used the wrong approach and to “remember salvation is of the Lord”.